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Dog Trains Man

12/10/2010 by John 4 Comments

Picture of a chocolate labrador retriever

Tucker

I’ve got a big brown dog pacing with expectation around my house with a dirty gray stuffed skull and crossbones wedged between his jaws. Occasionally, he brings it right up to my face as I sit here on the recliner, trying my best to write while his nails are clip, clopping rhythmically across the floor. The beast’s name is Tucker, and he wants my attention.

The pacing stops and he goes into his routine. This consists of him sitting in front of me and giving me the direct stare, his big brown watery eyes focused squarely on me with a look that says “OK, I’m ready, what are we gonna do now, I know you must be dying to do something fun with me, can we do something, anything, can we, can we, can we”. After the direct stare fails to move me to action, Tucker shifts his strategy into his sit-down-inches-from-John-and-stare-straight-at-the-floor-looking-dejected pose. I believe the intention here is to try and make me feel sorry for his hardships, such as the fact that we are not currently playing with a rock, or out splashing around in a muddy puddle trying to get as dirty as possible. Poor little puppy, we never do anything fun.

Yesterday I swept what seemed like half his 95 pounds of body weight off the floor in the form of coarse brown hairs. Doesn’t he know that winter is here and he should really consider holding on to all of that fur until at least next April? Additionally, how can he lose that much hair as regularly as he does and still be here at all? I keep expecting to wake up one day to find nothing left of him but a pile of prickly brownness with some ragged old bones poking out of it haphazardly.

Now he’s gotten the message. He’s given up any hope of anything fun happening anytime soon and contorted himself into a curly Q in his chair in the corner of the living room. How can any creature sleep with their nose that close to their ass? He’s lightly snoring and soon perhaps he’ll start in with little high pitched, muted barks, his legs twitching as he runs in his sleep. What could it be that he is running from, or perhaps towards, in his doggy dreams?

Soon we will go for a walk. It’s pretty much the same walk we go on each and every morning since he’s been staying with us. We’ll leave the house and take a right on the greenway leading to the University of North Carolina in Asheville. There’s a wooded spot there where I’ll let him off his leash and hopefully he’ll go take care of his business in private (he is modest in this area of his life, though this modesty does not extend to his propensity to consume other animal’s byproducts when available). Afterward, we’ll continue on around several blocks and if I allow myself to be patient, he will teach me some lessons.

As previously stated, the route we take each morning varies little from day to day, but yet for Tucker, each and every time we go seems to be a new adventure. I’m pretty sure he knows where he is and that he’s been there many times before, but he does not let this detract him from experiencing what he encounters as if it were all new again. You see, he realizes more than most of us that nothing is ever the same. There are new things to check out, such as that little patch of grass he did not notice yesterday, or a new sound coming from the trees to our left, or that peculiar smell emanating from the dumpster by that student apartment complex. He takes each step of that same path open and ready to experience it anew.

A dog’s life is routine. Eat, play, sleep, repeat. Yet in this routine, they find joy. After all, what creature wouldn’t enjoy a big bowl of simulated fish and oatmeal flavored food product consumed so fast that no chewing is required, followed by a roll in cow shit? A dog has little trouble identifying the simple pleasures in their day to day life.

These simple pleasures are all around us, yet we usually take them for granted or miss seeing them all together because we are too busy responding to a text message or worrying about what still has to be done on the to do list. I think discovering what Tucker knows is something we can all strive for, and that something is to find joy in our routines.

Many days of our life may seem at first glance to be remarkably similar to many other days. We see the same places, interact with the same people, and respond the same way we always do to the conditions around us. But there is another way to view each day, and that is to open our eyes and minds to experience the events of our life as if we are doing so for the first time. Nothing is ever exactly the same from day to day. The light is different, the quality of the air varies, and that person we thought we knew so well probably has something new to teach us if take the time to listen.

I have been traveling a lot lately for work and pleasure. I have not had much routine as of late. I think one of the reasons I do what I do is intentionally to avoid routine. I tend to equate routine with boredom and drudgery, and routine can certainly have those qualities. But this is a choice that we make. We decide if we let routine affect us in negative ways. The big brown beast helps me to see the alternative. Tucker has shown me that I can view each moment of my daily walk as a new adventure, full of new experiences which bring with them potential and possibility.

Tucker the dog lying in the sun

Tucker in the Sun. Photo by Trish Haitz, the beast's primary caregiver.

Filed Under: Home Tagged With: mindfulness

Coming Home

11/09/2010 by John 2 Comments

I find myself home again after a fall spent traveling to Tuscaloosa, New York City, the Chesapeake Bay, and the Outer Banks. I’m a little road weary and glad to be back in Asheville for a while. So here is something I wrote back in the Spring of 2009 about coming home after a season of adventures.

Photo of the Linville Gorge, North Carolina

The Linville Gorge in the Fall

As the trees opened up at the bend in the trail, the late afternoon sun striking out across the gorge washed the alternating bands of lush vegetation and jagged rock walls before me in a fiery glow that filled my mind and spirit with a profound sense of peace and wonder.

I was home again.

It was the late summer of 2003 at the end of a road trip that had taken me down rivers in the canyons of Utah, hiking in the magnificent forests of the Cascades, and sea kayaking in the salmon and berry filled fiords of southeast Alaska, but at that moment, I realized that nothing I had experienced on that journey had surpassed the beauty I was witnessing out my backdoor on the rim of the Linville Gorge Wilderness in North Carolina.

Growing up as a skateboarding, floppy banged, punk rock aficionado in 1980’s north Alabama, I spent my time waiting for the day I could leave the southeast behind for more majestic and progressive places. I had dreams of attending collage in a ski town out west where I would live in the big mountains and hit the steeps in between classes, but reality and my introverted nature set in and so I remained in the south for my collage years, still dreaming of the time I would escape to more exciting locales. A few twists and turns after college eventually led me to work full time as an instructor for the North Carolina Outward Bound School where I was able to create a lifestyle allowing me to travel and explore new places. My time in that role had me spending warm months hiking and sea kayaking the mountains of western North Carolina and the Outer Banks, then migrating down south during the winter to paddle the Florida Everglades and islands of the Bahamas. It was a grand adventure, allowing me ample time to travel in the time periods between migrations or when I chose to take a season off, as happened that summer of 2003.

Travel is a magical thing. It strips us down to a minimum of our precious possessions and puts us in places where we don’t know what to expect around the next bend or from the next conversation we’re about to have. It allows us a perspective on the places we’ve come from that is far more valuable than what it teaches us about the places we may be visiting at the time. Experiencing the different environments and cultures we travel through shines a light on ourselves, and helps to clarify who we are and what we truly value. When I was younger, I felt that one had to get as far away as possible to experience these things. The moment of clarity I had while looking in awe at the Linville Gorge taught me that adventure, natural wonder, and the insight they imbue can be found right at home.

I now consider myself fortunate to live in the southeast. Here one can explore rugged mountains, beautiful coastlines, and a fascinating cultural and natural history. In these times of economic uncertainty and global warming, what better way to save money, minimize our environmental impacts, and bolster our local economies than to seek our adventures close to home. For me lately, these might simply involve a long run on a local trail or a weekend bike tour. A week away might involve camping and paddling in the coastal areas of the Carolina’s, or a hike on a section of the Appalachian trail. Though the Linville Gorge is no longer my backyard, the Asheville Botanical Gardens are right down the street and the Blue Ridge Parkway is just a 20 minute bike ride away. Natural beauty, adventure, and all the benefits that come along with these phenomenon can be right outside your door if you open yourself up them.

Filed Under: Home, Travel Tagged With: hiking

Out and Back on the Hoh River Trail

09/04/2010 by John Leave a Comment

“You cannot stay on the summit forever; you have to come down again. So why bother in the first place? Just this: What is above knows what is below, but what is below does not know what is above. One climbs, one sees. One descends, one sees no longer, but one has seen. There is an art of conducting oneself in the lower regions by the memory of what one saw higher up. When one can no longer see, one can at least still know. ”
Rene Daumal

As an Outward Bound instructor, that quote became very familiar to me and is a popular favorite to be brought out at the end of the climbing section of a course or read at a dinner circle. But while familiar, I don’t think I’d ever put much thought into what it meant. Recently, while standing over the edge of the Blue Glacier in Olympic National Park, that quote flooded my brain and it’s significance to me became clear.

photo of author beside the Blue Glacier

To reach the edge of the Blue Glacier required a 17.5 mile trek through the temperate rain forests along the Hoh River, up into the high country surrounding Mount Olympus, then returning via the same route. Now let’s get one thing straight, I don’t like doing out and back hikes. I mean, who really wants to cover the same ground twice? Sure with a loop hike you end up back in the same place, but at least you’ve “come full circle”, which brings with it some sense, whether it be real or imagined, of completeness. However, I had done some research and had a person I trust tell me that this particular out and back hike would be well worth it.

I thought I’d try to recall the experience sitting here at home in Asheville, but decided the words of the moment, though more stream of consciousness and lacking the rules of grammar, would be best. So below is an excerpt from my journal, written on the forth day of the hike after we had left the high country and were headed back along the river with 11 miles left between us, the car, and the craziness of life out of the woods.

My view while writing

August 23rd,2010 around 7:30 AM
Banks of the Hoh River, Olympic National Park, Washington

Blue/grey water rushes past carrying with it the soil that once composed the high peaks towering in the morning sun, the dirt scoured out by the march of snow and ice, slow crackling it’s way leaving valleys and piles of rubble in it’s wake as it advances and retreats. Below, where I now sit, the giants live, sentinels of the forest, towering overhead, their massive bulk here for many, many human lifespans. This is a magical place. I am grateful it was spared before the ax fell like in so much of the forest surrounding the park, slopes covered in grey jagged stumps, sun baked and lifeless. Animals here seem to have little fear of us having been protected from guns for so long. No “you cannot stay on the summit forever”-but oh how I wanted to, watching the changing light and shadow, clouds hiding, then revealing ever loftier heights. The pain of the pack is temporary, the comforts of home are fleeting. Wilderness is where we can see just how small our place in this world really is, but also how much destruction we can bring in our wake.

So here are my thoughts a few weeks distant from the experience: From the edge of the Blue Glacier, looking up at the cloud shrouded heights of Mount Olympus, I could see the sweep of time and space, could feel how small our place in all of this vast world is, yet, at the same time know that what we do does make a difference. Each one of us, though our actions be tiny in comparison to the infinities around us, each action adds up, each step off the trail begins the formation of a new path, just as each snowflake, a billion times multiplied, created the glacier before me. Each one of us has our individual role to play in the creation of the larger whole.

Our hike on the Hoh River Trail provided a new window to look through. It once again affirmed to me the value of doing new things, and how seeing new places adds to our perspective. Explorations, whether they be a physical journey or one of the mind and spirit, widen and sharpen our vision so that the landscapes real and imagined we have already traversed can become new again. With this new perspective, we can move forward while going back to the familiar in our lives with more wisdom, and hopefully more to offer to those around us and the one world we all share. For me, that is what Rene Daumal was talking about.

Perhaps an out and back hike is not such a bad thing after all.

Hoh River Trail Summer 2010

Filed Under: Travel Tagged With: hiking

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